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When planning a wedding or other large social event, it’s common to get bogged down in “shoulds” — what color, length, and style should your dress be, what should the wording on the invitations be, which trends are in, and which should be avoided this year? As an experienced event planner, Guerdy Abraira has some simple advice: Just chill and trust your gut. “There is no right way to throw a party as long as it reflects you,” she said.
A corollary to this is that how other people plan their parties is none of your business, even if you’re among the guests. “I don’t walk into a party like, ‘Oh, she did all this wrong.’ It’s just not my place, to be honest,” Abraira said. “You got to be respectful, you know, respectful to your host and that’s rule number one, respect the host or hostess.” So for most of her time on “The Real Housewives of Miami,” Abraira was happy to stay in her lane and just the enjoy whatever had been planned. But the temptation to butt in with party planning advice was there. “Oh, I mean, I tried to, and we know what the end result is as far as Alexia getting hitched with Todd,” she said.