DEAR DEIDRE: MY husband has made my life an absolute misery since we married three years ago.
I moved in with him after our wedding, but he quickly told me that it was his house.
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We’re both in our late 50s. He controls almost everything and I don’t feel as though this is home.
He’s turned what was our bedroom into a man cave, complete with TV, games console and beer fridge – now I hardly go in there.
He controls the TV, heating, hot water, the wifi and the landline.
Nobody comes to visit because he is so unwelcoming and, frankly, I’d be embarrassed.
The abuse has escalated recently. He screams and calls me insulting names.
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He has hit me and pulls my hair.
I know I should leave, but I would feel bad if it meant he’d have to sell his home, so I’m hanging in, trying to keep the peace.
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DEIDRE SAYS: There’s never any excuse for violence.
Your husband is a danger to you. Don’t wait for another angry outburst or give him any more chances.
Contact the National Domestic Abuse Helpline (womensaid.org.uk, 0808 2000 247) to talk through how to handle this without putting yourself at even more risk.
You need to seek legal advice about your rights to the home if you leave.
Contact your local Citizens Advice (citizensadvice.org.uk).
