DEAR DEIDRE: I CHOSE my best friend to be my son’s godparent assuming that once the restrictions ended, we’d be able to see one another regularly. It didn’t happen.
Since I became pregnant she has written me off. She hasn’t contacted me once to catch up and when I called her, she said she was too busy.
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She is always out with other friends when I look on social media. Before, we were together all the time – best friends.
But she wasn’t supportive or happy when I told her about my pregnancy.
I backed off, hoping to prove a point. But I’ve heard nothing from her.
After being pushed out, I felt forced to change my choice of godparent without telling her. My son has now been christened and I didn’t invite her.
I don’t feel good about it. It’s eating away at me. We are both 28.
I accept that people change but this is different. I have been shut out and cut off. I feel guilty but don’t understand why. I am so confused and hurt.
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DEIDRE SAYS: It sounds as if you were justified in changing godparents after the way she has behaved.
This is about what is best for your child, not your friend.
Friendships can ebb and flow over time. You can only guess as to her reasons for cutting you off the way she did – perhaps out of jealousy – but you have nothing to feel guilty about.
If the relationship is not worth salvaging, you should move on.
