DEAR DEIDRE: My husband blew all our savings and even lost our home because of his cocaine addiction.
He’s 51 and works as a trader in London.
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He came to the job in later life and the money was good but he worked hard and played hard too.
I’m 42 and he started coming home late and most times he was drunk. I found wraps in his suit jacket when I was taking it to the cleaners.
I didn’t know what it was but he laughed at me, saying it was “just bit of Charlie”. He said everyone does it in the City.
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He’s emptied our bank account and even used during lockdown. Now we’re selling up so he can repay his debts.
Our marriage is a mess.
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DEIDRE SAYS: Addicts often don’t see how their substance abuse can tear families apart.
Insist he gets some help and give him a time limit to find that support. If he doesn’t act within that time-frame, you may have to be as good as your word and walk away.
You can both find help though We Are With You, (https://www.wearewithyou.org.uk/) helping people with addictions, their families and friends too (Over 50s only helpline 0808 801 0750).
