DEAR DEIDRE: I LOVE my friend but struggle with him being a racist bigot.
He always cracks jokes about foreign people on our college course. I hate his rude comments.
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He is 19 and I am an 18-year- old guy. I was brought up never to judge anyone by their skin colour but my mate does it all the time.
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Last week he joked about one of our friends who is Chinese, doing an impression of him. Our other pals laughed but I was cringing.
He’s lovely in every other way but I need to tell him his racism isn’t cool.
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DEIDRE SAYS: You are right, going along with his comments by staying quiet isn’t the solution.
It would be best to talk to him alone and in a calm moment.
Explain yourself to him as you have done to me – that making judgments about anyone based on their skin colour is wrong.
Tell him his words make you feel uncomfortable and you’re concerned he could offend other people.
My support pack called Standing Up For Yourself teaches assertiveness.
