DEAR DEIDRE: I’M so grateful to you, Deidre, for helping me to stand up to my drug-addicted daughter.
She has had drug problems for years, leading to huge debts. I’m 60 and my daughter is 30.
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My partner, 64, and I paid off her debts and found the money for her to go to rehab. But when she came out, she got into debt again.
Part of me felt her problems were my fault, so I couldn’t say no.
I gave her thousands of pounds of our savings without telling my partner, even though I knew we’d never see it again.
I felt so guilty and stupid and just didn’t know what to do.
You told me to be honest with my partner because the guilt was affecting my health.
You said I had to tell my daughter enough was enough.
I told her that I loved her, but there would be no more financial help.
Having counselling has given me the courage to talk to my partner.
He has forgiven me and I feel so much more positive.
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I am so glad things are better for you.