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DEAR DEIDRE: I PLUCKED up the courage to leave my boyfriend but I think he has my passport. Should I go back for it?
From the moment we moved in together, he got controlling and abusive.
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He’s 31 and I’m 26.
The final straw was when my passport went missing just before I was meant to go to Portugal for the weekend with a girlfriend.
It meant I couldn’t fly and let her down badly. I later found my passport in his work bag, tucked behind some tools.
When I left, he threatened to hurt me unless I stayed.
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My mum helped me move when he was at work but again I realise my passport has gone missing.
Should I ask for it back or stay away?
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DEIDRE SAYS: For your own safety, please stay away from him.
You could write and ask that he returns it – perhaps to your mum’s address, not your new one.
By taking your passport again he is trying to get your attention and control you.
Talk to the police, as it is a crime for him to withhold your passport.
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