DEAR DEIDRE: MY best mate told me he had sex with his dad’s sister.
He doesn’t think he’s done anything wrong – in fact he was boasting about it to me because “she’s so hot” – but I’m worried.
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He says it’s fine because he’s over 16. Is he right?
We’re both 19 and have been mates for eight years.
He’s never had much luck with girls our age and I think he was a virgin before.
His aunt is divorced, in her 30s, and much younger than his dad.
She lived abroad before and came to stay with his family recently, while she settled in the UK.
My mate told me he fancied her, but I thought it was just talk. I never imagined anything would happen between them.
Now I don’t know what to say to him or if I should tell someone else.
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I don’t want him to get into trouble but I don’t think he should do this again and I think his aunt might have taken advantage of him.
He says I’m just jealous as I don’t have a girlfriend.
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DEIDRE SAYS: It is illegal to have sex with your aunt or uncle.
Your best mate shares 25 per cent of his DNA with his aunt, so it’s a form of incest.
If anyone reports them to the police, they could both go to prison for two years.
The fact his aunt lived abroad and is much younger probably means she doesn’t feel like close family to your friend. But she is, and he must stop sleeping with her.
Please be firm with him. He may need counselling, so ask him to contact themix.org.uk (0808 808 4994), which provides support to under-25s.
