DEAR DEIDRE: MY husband treats me like a 1950s housewife.
He expects me to cook and clean for him and he’s very mean with his money – he won’t even pay for a meal out or a cheap holiday.
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I’m 68, he’s 67, and we’ve been married for 35 years. We have two grown-up children.
Recently, he came into an inheritance and he spent it all on himself, buying a new car and various boys’ toys.
We no longer have a sex life or anything in common. I’m starting to wonder what is the point of being together.
My son has said I’m welcome to live with his family – they have a granny flat and I’m tempted.
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But when I tell my husband I’m unhappy he says he can’t live without me, and he’ll change. Yet he never does.
Maybe I have left it too late to leave.
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DEIDRE SAYS: You’re not getting anything out of this relationship and your husband sounds needy, controlling and mean.
You deserve happiness, and your son has offered you an escape route.
Whatever he says, your husband CAN live without you. His words are just emotional blackmail.
You could try talking to him again and make it clear you are on the brink of leaving if nothing changes.
But if you do decide to end your marriage, my support pack, Thinking Of Divorce, will show you the steps you need to take.
