DEAR DEIDRE: MY wife and I only ever have sex three times a year.
Once on my birthday, once on our anniversary and the third can be any time in the year.
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I’ve already used up one of my quota and that means I’ll only have sex twice more this year – it’s utterly depressing.
We’ve been married for seven years and together for 14. I’m 37 and she’s 34. We have a six-year-old girl.
If I try to talk to my wife about it she gets really moody and upset.
We don’t seem to have anything in common any more and only talk to arrange housekeeping details or pick-ups for our daughter.
I don’t want my daughter to grow up in a single-parent family but I am utterly miserable.
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DEIDRE SAYS: Find a quiet moment to talk to your wife and explain that she may find it hard to talk but you can’t carry on without any intimacy.
Explain that you feel you are missing being physically and emotionally close and you want to reconnect.
Please read my support pack How To Look After Your Relationship and see what changes might be made.
Ask your wife to see a relationship counsellor (relate.org.uk). If she won’t, you can talk to one yourself.
It will help you to start exploring what is going on in your marriage and might also help your wife to realise the situation is serious.
