DEAR DEIDRE: DESPITE our large age gap – I’m 32 and he’s 49 – my partner and I have a great relationship.
He used to be all over me, and loved me taking the initiative in the bedroom.
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But now a cuddle can make him edgy. The last time I made a move on him he got annoyed.
I’ve tried everything but all I get is that he “isn’t in the mood”. I don’t get it.
We used to have sex at least three times a week and I loved how connected we felt.
Nothing else has changed. We still live together, I don’t think he’s cheating, he doesn’t seem depressed or stressed.
So what on earth is going on? Help.
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DEIDRE SAYS: He might be embarrassed about the real reason behind his loss of libido and the only way you will get the truth is by talking it through.
Tell him how much intimacy matters to you and you miss the closeness.
It would be good to encourage him to visit his doctor to rule out any medical causes.
Also, it could simply be that he’s worried about his performance.
Erectile dysfunction is very often caused by psychological factors rather than physical ones.
If your partner struggled to perform just once, worrying this could happen again in itself can cause issues.
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