DEAR DEIDRE: I AM having troubling sexual thoughts about inanimate objects since I bought my dream sports car recently.
I am obsessed with it to the point that it is beginning to affect my relationship with my wife.
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I have been spending more time with my car than I have with her and she has started to notice. I love spending time cleaning its sleek, sexy bodywork. I am 42 and my wife is 40. We have been married for five years.
She has said things along the lines of: “You treat that car like it was your mistress.”
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I know the car is just an object and that it isn’t normal for me to feel this way, but I love her as though she were a woman.
How can I get over these feelings and rekindle my relationship with my wife?
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DEIDRE SAYS: What you are describing is a sexual fetish, or paraphilia.
The pull is so strong but you may end up hurting yourself or lose your relationship, so I urge you to seek help to understand and cope with it.
Find a reputable therapist via the College of Sexual and Relationship Therapists (cosrt.org.uk, 020 8106 9635).
My support pack on Fetishes will help too.
