DEAR DEIDRE: I GOT married three months ago and I already want out.
Even before we married I was wobbling, but my wife threatened to take her life if I didn’t go ahead with it.
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I’m 39 and my wife’s 35. Before we met I’d been in and out of relationships.
We were friends for around six years before we got together.
I didn’t fancy her and I suppose part of the reason I went ahead with the marriage was fear.
I didn’t want to be left living alone with my parents.
I fancied my ex who messed me about and truth be told, I still wish I was with her. We were together for almost a year.
She was really into me at first but we split after two years because neither of us would move for the other.
My wife and I have good jobs, own our own home and on the surface things look good, but deep down it’s not what I want.
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DEIDRE SAYS: You married for all the wrong reasons.
Blackmailing is a form of emotional abuse and, like all abuse, is about power and control.
Your wife did this to make you afraid of the consequences, in order to get you to do what she wanted.
There is never a good time to leave but if you are sure you don’t want a future with your wife, then separating sooner rather than later would be the kindest thing to do.
If she’s depressed enough to threaten suicide she needs to talk to her GP.
My support pack Ending A Relationship will help too.
