DEAR DEIDRE: I’ve been dumped by a woman I had a whirlwind affair with.
I met her at work when she joined our office. She is from South Africa.
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We started seeing one another and three months later she moved in with me with her son.
We got engaged a few weeks later. We were so happy. I was so proud to be with her.
I’m 47 and she’s 43. Her son’s 21.
I made sure they had everything they needed. They wanted for nothing.
Her son then decided to move in with a friend. His mum said she would stay with him for a few days to ensure he was settled in.
I thought she was coming back but then contact between us stopped.
Her son came to pick up the rest of their belongings and said that his mum was disappointed with how I treated her.
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He said I hadn’t done enough for them. I was in shock and cried.
I love and miss her but I’ve been left feeling used.
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DEIDRE SAYS: You quickly jumped into a relationship, but you have nothing to reproach yourself for, except perhaps being too trusting.
Shed your tears over her but then make a determined effort to move on.
Next time you like someone, take things slowly at first, so that you can become confident they like you before getting in too deep.
Think friends to start with, not potential partners.
My support pack Finding The Right Partner For You will help you get started.
