DEAR DEIDRE: THE lack of passion between my boyfriend and me has always been an issue in our relationship.
We only make love once or twice a month.
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He says that he has a low sex drive and when he’s stressed or worried he can’t perform.
One day I listened to my gut instinct and checked his computer.
I found a substantial amount of porn, which I know he’ll have been pleasuring himself over.
He admitted to me he had done this over one of my posts on Facebook before he met me.
I am 23 and my boyfriend is 27. I have told him how hurt I am but he just becomes really angry.
I’m so unhappy that I’m considering walking away from it all.
But I worry that doing this purely over a lack of sex and intimacy is a cop out.
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DEIDRE SAYS: He has got into the habit of finding sexual satisfaction using pornography.
It’s designed to be addictive and tends to blunt sexual responses.
Tell him you can’t see a future together unless he changes.
Hopefully that will provide the incentive he needs.
My support pack Internet Pornography Worries outlines the sources of support available.
