DEAR DEIDRE: MY mum is driving me round the bend by assuming she can have lifts whenever she likes.
I am the only one in my family with a car and she constantly offers me up as a driver to family and friends.
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She doesn’t try to contribute towards the cost of petrol and if I ask for fuel money she calls me a brat.
I’m a 25-year-old woman and still live at home with my mum, who is 55, and my 28-year-old brother.
I contribute towards the bills every month and pay for everything to do with my car.
Yet Mum demands I take her to see her friends, pick up and drop off her sister and take my brother to see his girlfriend.
I’m often exhausted after a long shift at work and really want to chill out in front of the TV.
If I dare object, she goes on and on at me until I cave in.
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DEIDRE SAYS: Can you ask for a meeting with your mum and brother to run through the household budget and chores.
Ask that the three of you agree on a fair division.
It isn’t unreasonable to put a cap on how many lifts you can give a week and even suggest that you need three or four days’ notice – no more last-minute drop-offs.
Try to stick to the facts and put your point over calmly.
I’m sending you my support pack Standing Up For Yourself to help you have a constructive conversation.
