DEAR DEIDRE: I’VE only been with my partner for a year but the honeymoon period is over.
We had lots of sex at first but sometimes my partner doesn’t last long.
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He worries about his lack of stamina, which makes keeping an erection difficult.
Now we’re lucky if we have sex once or twice a month.
He moans about it because in his previous relationships he didn’t have these problems.
He did say most of his previous relationships were just sex.
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He feels we connect mentally and emotionally.
But he doesn’t have much confidence.
He closes off and doesn’t say much.
It makes me feel I’m not attractive. I’m 25 and he’s 29.
DEIDRE SAYS: Do not blame yourself.
It’s not unusual for men to experience temporary performance difficulties after having casual sex without feelings involved.
When a relationship transitions into true intimacy, the stakes are higher and there’s more to lose.
My support packs on Solving Erection Problems and Lasting Longer will help.
