DEAR DEIDRE: A WOMAN I met online asked me to send her naughty pictures and I couldn’t, because I can’t get an erection.
I was so embarrassed that I lied and told her I wasn’t interested, even though I did like her.
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I’m only 21, and although I’m single I’m worried I won’t be able to have sex if I start dating again.
I can’t even keep my erection when I masturbate.
I have to put in way more effort than I should, and then it goes away after a few seconds.
Then I have to ejaculate without being hard, and it’s horrible.
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I’ve never had this problem in the past, either alone or with partners.
The only thing I can think might be causing it is the antidepressants I’m taking because I was really down during the lockdowns.
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DEIDRE SAYS: If you aren’t able to get an erection even while masturbating, this does suggest a physical issue rather than a psychological one.
Some antidepressant drugs can cause sexual problems. See your GP and please don’t stop taking your medication without advice. They may be able to prescribe an alternative treatment.
My support pack about Erection Problems should be useful.
Contact the Sexual Advice Association for more information and advice (sexualadviceassociation.co.uk).
